Being both a parent and a child development consultant, one of the most common questions I encounter is whether we can expect our children to behave. The simple answer is yes, but it’s not relatively that straightforward.

Children are not automatons programmed to obey our every command. They’re unique individuals with personalities, emotions, needs, and preferences. They’re on a constant journey of learning and growth, occasionally stumbling, just like adults.

So, what exactly do we mean by expecting our kids to behave? Is it an expectation that they unfailingly heed our instructions, never cause trouble, refrain from tears, whining, or tantrums, and remain constantly cheerful and cooperative? If so, this expectation sets us up for disappointment and frustration. Imperfection is a part of being human for both kids and adults alike.

Instead of aspiring for perfection, we should adjust our expectations based on their age, developmental stage, and circumstances. We should acknowledge that they’re children, not miniature adults. It’s reasonable to expect them to have emotions, opinions, and preferences and to express them appropriately. We should encourage them to learn from their experiences and grow with time.

Simultaneously, we must recognize that they will face challenges and may need our guidance and support. They’ll have bad days, fluctuating moods, and behaviours requiring patience and empathy. Understanding their humanity is essential.

Can we expect our kids to behave then? Certainly, but with an understanding that they’re not immune to age-related challenges, mood swings, hunger, fatigue, boredom, excitement, stress, or simply being human – in other words, as long as they’re not kids.

However, this is the beauty of parenting: embracing our children for who they are, not who we want them to be. It’s about celebrating their strengths, assisting them in overcoming weaknesses, enjoying their company, and being there for their journey.

Gratitude arises even amidst their occasional misbehaviour.

If you’re seeking resources to navigate the complexities of raising children, here are some recommendations:

• For teens aspiring to cultivate positive habits and skills, explore 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENAGERS by Sean Covey.
• Positive Discipline for Teenagers, Revised 3rd Edition by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott is ideal for parents aiming to improve communication and foster mutual respect with their teens.
• What’s Happening To Me?: The Classic Illustrated Children’s Book on Puberty by Peter Mayle is an informative guide for kids curious about bodily changes.
• Amazing You!: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts by Gail Saltz and Lynne Avril Cravath is a valuable resource for younger children learning about their bodies.

These books offer engaging and informative content.

For personalized guidance on mental wellness, parenting, or nurturing your child’s skills, contact me at namita@educateable.in or schedule a consultation with me. Subscribe for updates on forthcoming sessions and workshops.

May your parenting journey be enriching and rewarding! 😊 Feel free to share these insights with others who may benefit from them.