Does your child become overwhelmed by sounds, certain clothes, crowded places or changes in plans?
Do they seem to take criticism very personally?
Does a small disappointment lead to a reaction that feels much bigger than the situation itself?
Before assuming that your child is being dramatic, difficult or “too sensitive”, it can be useful to consider another possibility: your child may be experiencing the world more intensely.
Some children have a temperament characterised by greater sensitivity to their environment and emotional experiences. Research refers to this broader trait as sensory processing sensitivity or environmental sensitivity. It is understood as an individual difference in how strongly a person responds to environmental and social stimuli.
This does not mean that every child who dislikes loud noises or cries easily is a highly sensitive child. It also does not mean that sensitivity itself is a diagnosis.
Instead, think of sensitivity as one possible way a child’s nervous system and temperament can shape how they experience the world.
In this post, I will show you a simple expressive arts activity you can use to help a child communicate how intense an experience feels from the inside.
What Does “Highly Sensitive Child” Mean?
The term “highly sensitive child” is commonly used to describe children who show a higher degree of environmental sensitivity.
Research into environmental sensitivity suggests that children differ in how strongly they are affected by experiences in their environment. The Highly Sensitive Child Scale was developed to study this trait in children and adolescents, with research identifying groups with lower, medium and higher levels of environmental sensitivity.
Sensory processing sensitivity has also been described as involving greater sensitivity to environmental stimuli, deeper processing and stronger emotional or physiological responses.
A sensitive child may therefore notice details that another child appears to ignore.
For example, they may notice:
- a loud classroom
- an uncomfortable clothing label
- a change in the usual routine
- tension between adults
- a teacher’s change in tone
- a crowded environment
- criticism or correction
- another person’s sadness
The important point is that sensitivity can show up in different ways.
Signs of a Highly Sensitive Child
There is no single behaviour that proves a child is highly sensitive. Instead, parents may notice a recurring pattern.
1. Small experiences can produce big reactions
Your child may become extremely upset about something that seems minor to an adult.
Perhaps their favourite cup is unavailable.
Perhaps plans changed unexpectedly.
Perhaps someone spoke to them sharply.
The event may appear small from the outside, while the child’s internal experience may feel much bigger.
2. Sensory experiences can feel overwhelming
Some children are particularly aware of sensory input.
They may complain about:
- loud sounds
- strong smells
- bright lights
- uncomfortable clothing
- certain food textures
- crowded spaces
Sensory sensitivity can also occur in children with a range of developmental or clinical profiles, so this sign by itself should not be used to identify a highly sensitive child.
Research into children’s sensory experiences shows that sensory factors can influence participation in everyday activities, although sensory differences have many possible explanations.
3. They may need more time to recover
After a busy school day, party or social event, your child may need quiet time.
You might see:
busy environment → increasing overwhelm → emotional reaction → need for recovery
Giving a child some quiet space after intense experiences can help you understand whether overstimulation is contributing to the behaviour.
4. They may notice other people’s emotions quickly
A sensitive child may notice when someone’s voice changes or when the emotional atmosphere in a room feels different.
They might ask:
“Are you angry?”
“Why are you sad?”
“Did I do something wrong?”
Their awareness of other people’s emotional states can sometimes make social situations feel more intense.
5. Criticism may feel particularly powerful
A simple correction can sometimes stay with the child long after the interaction has ended.
For example:
“You need to be more careful.”
may become:
“I am bad at this.”
The child’s response may therefore involve more than the words that were spoken. They may continue thinking about the interaction afterwards.
A Simple Way to Help Your Child Explain How Big Something Feels
Children do not always have the vocabulary to explain the intensity of an internal experience.
Instead of asking:
“Why are you overreacting?”
try giving them a visual language.
This is where expressive arts can be useful.
Try the “Emotional Volume” Art Activity
You need:
- a sheet of paper
- washable markers, crayons or coloured pencils
- a comfortable space where your child can draw
You do not need expensive art materials.
Step 1: Make a small mark
Ask your child to imagine that the mark represents something that happened.
It could be:
“Someone spoke loudly.”
or
“My plans changed.”
or
“My shirt felt uncomfortable.”
Draw a small mark on the page.
Then ask:
“How big did that feel inside?”
Step 2: Let the child show the intensity
Instead of requiring your child to explain the feeling verbally, invite them to represent it.
They could:
- make the mark bigger
- press harder
- use a different colour
- add more lines
- draw a shape around it
You can also ask them to rate the experience from 1 to 10.
A useful question is:
“If 1 is barely noticeable and 10 is HUGE inside, where would you put this feeling?”
There is no correct answer.
The purpose is communication.
Step 3: Turn the marks into something meaningful
Now invite your child to transform the page.
Perhaps the marks become:
a storm,
a garden,
a creature,
a galaxy,
or an abstract picture.
Let the child decide.
The transformation matters because the original marks have moved from something that simply represents an overwhelming experience into something the child can observe and explore.
Why Can This Activity Help?
Drawing gives children another route for communicating experiences that may be difficult to explain verbally.
For a sensitive child, saying:
“It was too much.”
may be easier than explaining exactly what was happening internally.
The visual representation gives you something concrete to talk about.
You might ask:
“What made this part so big?”
“Which part feels strongest?”
“What would make this smaller?”
These questions can open a conversation without turning it into an interrogation.
The activity can also help parents notice patterns.
Perhaps the child consistently makes very large marks after noisy environments.
Perhaps changes in routine produce the strongest drawings.
Perhaps criticism produces a large emotional response.
Those observations can give you useful information about the child’s experiences.
What the Activity Is Teaching
The central metaphor is simple:
The size of the event and the size of the internal experience may be different.
Imagine a piece of paper.
You make a tiny mark.
Then another.
Then another.
Soon the page becomes crowded.
Each individual mark may be small, but together they create something much bigger.
A child can experience their environment in a similar way.
A noisy classroom may be one experience.
An uncomfortable uniform may be another.
A correction from a teacher may be another.
A change in plans may be another.
By the end of the day, the child may have accumulated far more stimulation than the adult realised.
This is one reason it can be helpful to look at patterns across situations rather than judging a single reaction in isolation.
Sensitivity Is Not the Same as Weakness
A child who experiences things intensely can also have strengths associated with greater environmental sensitivity.
Research on sensory processing sensitivity describes it as a trait involving responsiveness to both negative and positive environmental experiences. Supportive environments may therefore be particularly important for children with higher sensitivity.
A child may be deeply affected by criticism while also being deeply moved by kindness.
They may become overwhelmed by a crowded environment while noticing details that others miss.
They may feel another person’s sadness strongly while also showing considerable emotional awareness.
The aim is therefore to understand the child’s individual pattern rather than treating sensitivity as a character flaw.
What Parents Can Say Instead of “You’re Too Sensitive”
Language matters.
Instead of:
“You’re overreacting.”
Try:
“That felt really big for you.”
Instead of:
“Why are you making such a fuss?”
Try:
“Something about this feels overwhelming. Let’s figure out what part is bothering you.”
Instead of:
“You need to toughen up.”
Try:
“Let’s work out what helps when things feel too intense.”
These statements do not mean that every behaviour is acceptable.
A child can be supported emotionally while still learning boundaries, communication and appropriate behaviour.
When Should You Seek Professional Support?
Sensitivity exists on a continuum, and a parent cannot determine from a few behaviours whether a child has a particular psychological or developmental condition.
It is worth seeking professional guidance when a child’s reactions are persistent, significantly distressing or interfering with everyday life.
For example, consider speaking with a qualified child mental health professional if your child is regularly unable to participate in school, social activities or family routines because of distress.
It is also useful to remember that sensory sensitivity can occur alongside different developmental or clinical presentations. Research specifically highlights the need to distinguish sensory processing sensitivity from conditions that can involve overlapping forms of environmental or sensory hyper-responsiveness.
This activity is therefore a communication and reflection tool, not a diagnostic test.
Watch the EducateAble YouTube Short
I have demonstrated this activity visually in the EducateAble YouTube Short so you can see exactly how the simple marks on the page become a way of talking about emotional intensity.
If your child responds well to visual communication, you can pause the video and try the activity together.
Helpful Resources for This Activity
You do not need special equipment to try expressive arts activities with children. A basic paper-and-colour setup is enough.
If you would like to create a small feelings-and-art corner at home, these are useful categories to consider. Add your own Amazon affiliate links to the product names below.
1. Washable children’s markers
Look for a washable marker set with a range of colours. Markers are particularly useful for this activity because children can easily change the pressure, size and colour of their marks.
Suggestion:
Crayola Washable Markers / Crayola Super Tips Washable Markers
Current listings include washable children’s marker sets, including Crayola Super Tips.
2. Children’s sketchbook or drawing pad
A dedicated sketchbook gives your child a place to return to visual emotional expression without making the activity feel like homework.
Choose paper that can handle markers or coloured pencils.
3. Children’s emotion or feelings cards
Emotion cards can be useful when a child knows that something is happening internally but cannot find the words.
For example, you could ask:
“Which card feels closest to what happened?”
Then invite the child to draw that feeling rather than explain it verbally.
The Feelings Deck for Kids is designed around helping children identify emotions and includes activities related to body awareness and emotional regulation. It is aimed at young children, with the publisher listing it for roughly the preschool to early primary range.
4. Coloured pencils or crayons
Some children prefer the softer, slower quality of crayons or coloured pencils over markers.
This can be particularly useful if the child enjoys shading, filling spaces or creating detailed drawings.
5. A feelings journal for older children
For older children, combine drawing with short prompts such as:
“Today something felt bigger when…”
“My body felt…”
“What helped was…”
The journal can become a private space for noticing patterns over time.
A Simple Parent Prompt to Save
The next time your child has a reaction that seems much bigger than the situation, pause before trying to correct the behaviour.
Try asking:
“How big did that feel inside?”
Then give them paper.
Ask them to show you, rather than requiring them to explain everything with words.
That small change can turn a difficult conversation into an opportunity for understanding.
Try This With Your Child
Take a sheet of paper and make one small mark.
Ask your child:
“What happened?”
Then:
“How big did it feel inside?”
Let the child show you.
There is no perfect drawing and no correct colour.
The important information is what the child chooses to communicate.
If you use this activity, pay attention to what you learn about your child’s experiences rather than judging the artwork itself.
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Note: This article is for educational purposes and does not replace an individual assessment by a qualified mental health or developmental professional. The term “highly sensitive child” refers to a trait or pattern of environmental sensitivity and is not, by itself, a clinical diagnosis.
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